How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
The Only 6 Ways Men Can Seem Creepy—Learn Them and Flirt Fearlessly
Episodes
You want to make moves, from approaching women to asking out your crush. But you’re afraid you’ll seem creepy. And that fear is costing you dates and confidence. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares the solution. He calls them the 6 ICKS. There are only six ways men give women the ick. Avoid the 6 ICKS, and you’ll be free to flirt with confidence, take more chances, and get a great girlfriend. BOOK A FREE CALL TO LEARN HOW CONNELL’S COACHING WILL HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com
Chances are, you struggle with flirting. Maybe you freeze up when you want to approach a woman, run out of things to say on dates, or stare at your phone wondering what to text. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares 29 flirting tips to help you start conversations, send better texts, and spark romantic interest—without cheesy pickup lines. NOT SURE HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
If you’re like most single men, you’d love to meet women in places like coffee shops, bars, and the gym—but you just don’t know what to say to start the conversation. And you have no idea how to make things flirty, let alone sexy. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett shares the 8 sexiest things to say when you approach in the daytime. Get ready to approach with authentic charm and zero creepiness. STRUGGLING TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Book” in Subject Line)
What kind of text should you never send a woman—and what should you send instead? Dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 9 texts that can hurt your chances with her, and shares 9 charming alternatives that can help you get more replies and land more dates. STRUGGLING TO TEXT WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION TO TALK WITH CONNELL ABOUT COACHING: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Book” in Subject Line)
Running out of things to say is a chemistry killer. It leads to awkward silences, and getting that dreaded text: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett reveals the only 8 topics you need to have fun, free-flowing conversations with women. Goodbye, awkward silences. Hello, second dates! WANT TO ATTRACT A GREAT GIRLFRIEND IN 90 DAYS OR LESS? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT:DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com
You know what’s frustrating? Getting first dates lined up with women you’re into—then they cancel, or ghost you. It can leave a guy feeling rejected and confused. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 texting mistakes men make that lead to women flaking on dates. You’ll also learn 7 fixes so you can stop the flaking and get a lot more dates. STRUGGLING WITH TEXTING AND GETTING DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Book” in Subject Line)
Do you struggle with what to say around attractive women—whether you’re at the gym, on a date, or texting with someone from a dating app? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you eight flirty things to say—and the eight things NOT to say—so you can stop freezing up and start making sparks fly with women you’re into. Listen now. NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
It sucks when a first date seemed to go well, and then you hear those five frustrating words: “I didn’t feel a connection.” What was missing? Likely, a sexy spark. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett counts down the top 10 most surprisingly sexy things you can say on a first date. Listen now, so you can start getting texts like this: “So, when are we going out again? ;)” STRUGGLING TO GET SECOND DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Book” in Subject Line)
You want to confidently approach women in the real world, but fear holds you back. That’s because you’ve been lied to about approaching. And those lies keep you from meeting wonderful women. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares the 7 biggest lies about approaching women—and the 7 truths that will let you confidently talk to women almost anywhere. STRUGGLING TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Book” in Subject Line)
Texting shouldn’t feel so dang hard. You overthink every word, send the message, wait for her reply—and still get ghosted! In this episode of the "How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast," dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments: 10 rules for messaging women that will free you from your texting chains. Stop overthinking every message, and start getting women writing you back, flirting with you, and saying yes to dates. NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT? LOW ON DATING CONFIDENCE? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You know what sucks? Thinking a date went well only to hear her say, “I didn’t feel a connection.” Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you a practical roadmap to avoid the Friend Zone—before, during, and after a date. He shares playful pre-date texts, flirting strategies on the date, and funny next-day messages that make her laugh. Get ready to start hearing, “So when are we going out again?” DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH FLIRTING OR TEXTING? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
The date seemed to go well—conversation flowed, and there were no awkward silences. Yet she texted you those painful words: “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In Part 1 of this two-part episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why many men end up in the Friend Zone. He also shares how changing the way you communicate with women creates the spark that leads to second dates, first kisses—and a lasting relationship. ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
If fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New Attachment Theory,” and as founder of the Personal Development School. Gibson joins dating coach Connell Barrett to share practical exercises to help you overcome rejection anxiety, build lasting confidence, and create healthier relationships. Episode Highlights: 01:55: Why the “Perfect” Opener Won’t Fix Deeper Insecurity 09:18: 3 Steps to Stop Feeling that You’re Not Enough 17:57: How the 4 Attachment Styles Affect Your Dating Life 27:13: Why Guys Panic When a Woman Doesn’t Text Back Right Away 41:01: She Went Quiet? Here’s What a Securely Attached Men Does Next 44:22: Do This When You Want to Go for the Kiss TAKE THAIS GIBSON’S FREE ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZ: Attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com LEARN ABOUT THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL: Personaldevelopmentschool.com FOLLOW THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL ON INSTAGRAM: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool
You see an incredible woman you want to talk to, but you’re not sure what to say—and the pickup lines you’ve heard sound cheesy or creepy. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you 11 natural, non-cringe opening lines you can say to any woman. Get ready to break the ice in charming, genuine ways, and start getting dates. HIRE CONNELL TO TEACH YOU HOW TO APPROACH AND DATE INCREDIBLE WOMEN. BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
If you’ve ever wondered, “What do I say? How do I flirt?” Tony’s story will resonate. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with Tony, a divorced dad and software engineer who had some flirting breakthroughs that helped him win over Jennifer. If Tony can go from struggling to talk to women to finding his dream relationship, so can you! NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
When you get good at flirting, you’ll be shocked by what you can achieve. Dating coach Connell Barrett sure was. Once a dateless introvert stuck in the friend zone, he never imagined his love life would include instant make-outs, fun flings, and beautiful women pursuing him. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell shares five brain-breaking flirting moments that shattered his dating limitations. What might be possible for you? 03:11: “You Want Me to Approach Her? She’s with that Guy!” 09:39: Three First Dates, Three First Kisses 18:20: Why So Many Women Prefer Older Men 24:54: The Date that Truly Broke My Brain 36:17: How to Manage a Ménage: It’s as Easy as One, Two, “Toi” NOT SURE HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
Imagine never struggling to come up with a good online dating opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven proven, playful dating-app openers that you can use every day of the week! You’re about to learn what to message women, and how to keep the conversation flowing after they reply. NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
There’s one dating skill that will help you smash through almost any dating challenge, from rejection to ghosting to approach anxiety. The skill? Resilience. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett reveals why resilience is the least sexy but most powerful skill in dating—and how it can help you to finally find the one. Listen now. NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BANTER ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You can’t get great at flirting without making mistakes, as dating coach Connell Barrett learned the hard way. In this candid and hilarious episode, Connell shares 7 huge flirting mistakes he made—including the time a woman poured a pitcher of ice-water down his shirt. He also shares 7 lessons that helped him crack the code on male-female connection. NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You texted, but she didn’t reply. So you assume you’re ghosted. Not so fast! Dating coach Connell Barrett says that one unanswered text isn’t ghosting. It’s just dating in 2026. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell breaks down why most “ghosting” isn’t actually ghosting—and he shares 22 funny, playful follow-up messages that get women writing you back and going on dates with you. Listen now. NOT SURE HOW TO TEXT WOMEN? TIRED OF GETTING GHOSTED? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
Most guys struggle on first dates by playing it too safe. Same dull questions, same dull answers, same text she sends the next day: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares a drastic, powerful solution. “Blow up” your next first date! Connell breaks down the three rules to take your dates from forgettable to explosively fun. He also explains why the “risky” move is the smartest one you can make. Listen now. NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES WITH WOMEN YOU’RE INTO? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comG ET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You want to meet women in the real world, but you you worry that it’s weird or socially creepy. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why now is the best time ever to meet women “in the wild.” He shares how he and his clients are proving it every day. Listen now so you can stop overthinking and start approaching women in your day-to-day life. NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH AND TALK TO WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
Nothing kills a date faster than running out of things to say—and the awkward silence that follows. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett breaks down 8 great first-date topics that lead to free-flowing, flirty conversations. You’ll learn how to keep conversations going, banter with charm, and get a lot more second dates. NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BANTER ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You see a woman in the real world you want to meet—but you freeze, get stuck in your head, and have no clue what to say. On this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 31 flirty, funny things to say to break the ice with women. Listen now for 31 openers that are charming, playful and NEVER creepy. NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
Do you want to meet women without sounding like some weird pickup artist? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five pickup lines for men who hate pickup lines. You’ll hear how his client Taylor went from overthinking approaches to confidently meeting and dating Cassie—no cheesy pickup lines needed. And if Taylor can do it, so can you! STRUGGLING TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
If you feel you’re just not handsome enough to get a great girlfriend, this episode will change how you think. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett sits down with his client Shekar, who used to feel like he wasn’t handsome enough to date wonderful women. Then he flew to New York City for Connell’s Wingman Weekend approaching bootcamp. Now he can meet women, get numbers, flirt—and he finally feels worthy! Episode Highlights: 4:31: The “Hand of God” Approach That Changed Shekar’s Confidence 14:14: Why It’s Not Creepy to Approach Women at the Gym 24:45: The Secret to Playful Banter on the Dating Apps 36:35: The Surprising Link Between Self-Improvement and Getting a Girlfriend 1:03:25: How Much Does Where You Live Impact Your Love Life? STRUGGLING TO FLIRT AND CONNECT WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
Robbie was once so anxious around women he couldn’t even say hi to his crush, the cute cashier. And the idea of approaching women felt impossible. Then came one unforgettable Friday night. With dating coach and author Connell Barrett as his wingman, Robbie grabbed seven phone numbers and soon met his romantic partner. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell and Robbie unpack the aha moments that changed Robbie’s love life. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 08:25: The Cute Cashier Robbie Was Too Anxious to Talk To 14:15: A Simple Mindset Shift that Made Approaching Simple 24:50: The Playful Opener that Unlocked Robbie’s Confidence 34:15: “I Was in God Mode!” How Robbie Got 7 Phone Numbers in One Night 50:37: How Approaching Women Changes Your Entire Dating Life STRUGGLING TO APPROACH WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL SO HE CAN HELP YOU FIX IT:DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
Not knowing what to say or how to flirt on first dates can get any guy trapped in the dreaded friend zone. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 37 flirty things to say that spark chemistry and help her feel a real romantic connection—without using any manipulative pickup artist tactics. Listen now so you can confidently flirt and start getting second dates. STRUGGLING TO FLIRT WITH WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You see a woman you’d love to meet… and you freeze, overthinking the “perfect” line. And you’re left kicking yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and best-selling author Connell Barrett helps his client Evan flirt so good that women can’t stop thinking about him! From bold openers to “wolfish” eye contact that women love, you’ll learn how to create instant sparks with women. 07:45: How to Get Out of Your Head & Meet Women at Your Local Bar 10:46: Approaching Isn’t Creepy—But Doing THIS Is 19:53: What Stops You From Approaching Women 40:32: “How To Spark Attraction With Eye Contact 55:01: Why Women HATE “Interview Mode” STRUGGLING TO FLIRT WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You want to date women in your social circle, but you don’t want to be “that creepy guy.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client A.J. navigate meeting women in social groups. You’ll learn how to read the room and know what to say, without crossing any lines. Listen now—your future girlfriend might be in your yoga class, waiting for you to say hello. STRUGGLING TO FLIRT WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL:DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
If you struggle with what to say to women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is your flirting cheat sheet. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you exact lines to use in 7 tricky dating situations. Plus, he shares his flirting philosophy (“Flirting is playing”) so you can stop freezing and start confidently attracting wonderful women. Episode Highlights: 02:25: What to Say at the Gym (without Being Creepy) 05:40: The Playful Dating App Opener Women Love 09:20: What to Text Her When She Goes Quiet 14:27: How to Ask Her Out and Get the Date 17:36: The Easy Way to Never Run Out of Things to Say 21:45: The Simple Sentence that Frees You from the Friend Zone 26:33: Just Say This… to Get the First Kiss TIRED OF STRUGGLING TO FLIRT WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL:DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
You see quality women you’d love to meet—but anxiety gets in the way. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett lays out the 7 mileposts that take you from freezing up to confidently getting numbers and dates. Listen to learn why you’re stuck—and what it takes to meet attractive women in real life. Episode Highlights: 04:15: Milepost 1: Destroy Your Limiting Belief 13:13: Milepost 2: Approach Often (Reps, Baby!) 16:45: Milepost 3: Reach the the 2-Minute Mark 21:27: Milepost 4: Low Anxiety, High Confidence 23:41: Milepost 5: Getting Numbers & Dates (Results!) 28:25: Milepost 6: Confident, Fearless Approaching 31:27: Milepost 7: Your Amazing Outcome: Confidence, Dates, and Meeting Your Dream Girlfriend TIRED OF FREEZING UP AROUND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL:DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
If you struggle with what to say and how to flirt, help has arrived. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you 47 simple, actionable ways to spark attraction with women, without cheesy gimmicks. Learn how to be playful, authentic, and confident, so you’ll never run out of things to say—on dates, over text, or when approaching women. WANT TO BECOME AMAZING AT FLIRTING? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-1 COACHING: DatingTransformation.com NOT SURE HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN? GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Email “Free Book!” to: connell@datingtransformation.com
Do you feel clueless about flirting, and worry that one wrong move might creep her out? On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 flirting mistakes that kill attraction, including one psychologists call the “Slime Effect” (11:12). You’ll also learn exactly what to say to confidently create chemistry. Listen now. DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CALL TO LEARN HOW CONNELL’S 1-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: DatingTransformation.com
Things seem to be going well—and then she says, “You’re nice, but I don’t feel a connection.” Friend zone. In this live coaching session of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Matt to work through this exact issue. Connell breaks down how flirting actually works and shares a simple fix you can make so women start seeing you as more than just a friend. BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO SEE HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:DatingTransformation.com
There are 6 Levels of Flirting—and if you don’t get second dates, you’re likely stuck at a lower one. So what’s your flirting level? And how do you level up? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett brings the 6 Levels of Flirting to life through real-life stories. It’s time to stop overthinking, flirt with charm, and get a lot more second dates. Episode Highlights: 02:24: The Fun Role-play Approach that Sparks Instant Interest 06:53: Ben’s Bold “I Want to Kiss You” First-Date Moment 11:15: How Connell Finally Escaped the Friend Zone 15:55: The Secret to Making Emotional Connections on Dates 18:45: How Trevor Ignited Attraction with Becca BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: DatingTransformation.com
Being creepy is every man’s worst fear in dating. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares five moments when he accidentally creeped women out. Learn what went wrong, why it happened, and how to avoid these mistakes so you can flirt with confidence, authenticity and charm. Episode Highlights: 01:45: I Tried Being a Jerk… and Got Ice Water Dumped On Me 04:39: She Looked At Me and Said, “Does This Tactic Actually Work?” 07:45: One Crass Joke and the Whole Table Went Silent 12:05: I Handed Her a Note and Literally Ran Away 19:07: She Came Over with Wine, and I Totally Blew It BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: DatingTransformation.com
If dating apps don’t work for you, you likely assume that you’re the problem. You’re not. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down six common lies that sabotage your results. Get ready to fix your profile, attract better matches, and finally turn swipes into dates. Episode Highlights: 01:39: Lie #1: You’re Just Not Attractive Enough 05:00: Lie #2: You Have to Be Really Good-Looking 08:03: Lie #3: You Need Amazing Openers 11:21: Lie #4: You Need to Say a Lot in Your Bio 14:10: Lie #5: More Matches = More Dates 20:02: Lie #6: Dating Apps Want You to Find Love BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:DatingTransformation.com
Online dating is a battlefield, and some bios are self-inflicted wounds. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett roasts a dozen of the worst online dating bios. Your profile sounds like Shakespeare compared to the guy who tells women “I want to taste the yum yum.” Plus, Connell shares a dating app strategy you can use today to stand out in your city and finally get some good matches. Listen now! EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 01:10: How to Make Your Profile a “Unicorn” in Your City for More Matches 14:35: Dating Coach Connell Barrett Roasts the Worst Online Dating Bios Ever BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 DATING COACHING: DatingTransformation.com
Fifteen years ago, he was ready to quit approaching for good. He hated it. Nothing worked. Then a night in Miami changed everything. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett talks about this fateful evening. He also shares inspiring success stories from his clients Ken, Jason, and Ray. If you freeze up around beautiful women, this episode is for you. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS 01:59: The Night in Miami that Changed Connell’s Dating Life 17:01: How Ken Went from Shy Virgin to Getting His First Kiss and First Girlfriend 30:08: The Moment Ray Stopped Freezing Up and Started Confidently Meeting WomenB OOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL’S TEAM TO LEARN HOW HIS COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN: DatingTransformation.com
Do you not know how to flirt with women? Have you ever heard those brutal words, “I’m just not feeling it”? Your confusion ends today. For the first time, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares the 6 Levels of Flirting Mastery, giving you a clear, revolutionary roadmap so you’ll always know exactly how to talk to women. Whether you want basic competence or true mastery, get ready to start hearing, “So, when can I see you again?” The 6 Levels of Flirting: 02:00: Level 1: Play 05:50: Level 2: Clear Statements of Romantic Interest 10:31: Level 3: Banter16:10: Level 4: Emotional Connection 21:50: Level 5: Physical & Nonverbal Expressiveness 27:22: Level 6: Integration & Calibration BOOK A FREE CONSULT TO FIND OUT IF CONNELL’S DATING-COACHING CAN HELP YOU BECOME AMAZING AT FLIRTING: DatingTransformation.com
There are pivotal moments in dating that determine whether you create romantic sparks with a woman or lose your chance with her entirely. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 make-or-break moments that will determine when and if you find the relationship you want. Episode Highlights: 02:45: Make-or-Break Moment 1: To Approach or Not to Approach? 07:30: Make-or-Break Moment 2: When and How to Ask Her Out 12:15: Make-or-Break Moment 3: THIS Makes Her Swipe Right 16:45: Make-or Break Moment 4: Use Your First-Date Superpower to Escape the Friend Zone 23:20: Make-or-Break Moment 5: The Secret to Pre-Date Texting 26:05: Make-or-Break Moment 6: How to Pass Her Tests 30:10: Make or Break Moment 7: A Texting Move to Stop Getting Ghosted BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com
“I want to date you… you remind me of my mom.” Yep, a guy actually sent that as an opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 15 real messages and sorts them into three categories: magnificent, meh, and mortifying. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you might even steal a line or two that actually works. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 01:47: The Insult Opener That Somehow Got a Reply 02:43: Say This on the Apps—It’s Genius 04:25: The One-word Christmas Message that She (Rightly) Hated 08:50: A Line Only Hannibal Lecter Should Use 13:43: The Most Painfully Boring First Message on Earth 20:02: The Secret to Writing Charming Openers BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN WHY AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET WEAPON TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.DatingTransformation.com
If you’re an introvert who freezes up around women, help is here. Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Charlie, a client who went from from doubting his romantic worth to meeting his dream girlfriend Rachel. Connell and Charlie cover the mindset shifts and real-world wins that worked—and they talk some baseball, too. If you want to find your person, this episode is your roadmap. Episode Highlights: 11:38: The Two Toxic Thoughts that Kept Charlie Stuck 17:23: The Weekend of Approaching that Changed Everything 21:12: The Dating Lesson he Learned from MLB Baseball 34:44: The Moment Rachel Saw Him Differently 47:05: When He Destroyed His Fear of Rejection 53:11: Charlie’s Advice to Introverts who Feel Left Behind BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com
You see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required. Episode Highlights: 01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle 04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head 07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar 12:04: What to Say at the Gym 25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix It BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN IRL: www.DatingTransformation.com
You get matches, but then you’re not sure what to write for your opener. You don’t want to sound boring or try-hard, so you overthink it, and the conversation dies before it begins. In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Evan, who got great at writing openers that women reply to. Plus, Evan gives some tips on how to meet women in coffee shops and get instant dates, just like he does. Episode Highlights 03:20: From Shaking Hands to 80+ Confident Approaches—Evan’s Transformation] 06:01: What to Say and Not Say When You Approach 09:15: The Coffee Shop Icebreaker that Led Evan to a Make-Out in Just 30 Minutes! 18:45: The Funny Hinge Opener that Gets Women Writing You Back 1:01:02: The One Dating Tip Every Guy Needs to Hear BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com
Are you ready to flirt with women without coming off as “creepy”? In Part 2 of his 26 New Rules of Dating, bestselling author and dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the invisible blind spot that makes good guys accidentally seem creepy—and he helps you fix it. Learn how to flirt with confidence and authenticity, and make 2026 the year you meet your dream girlfriend. Episode Highlights: 01:47: The Classy Approaching Move that Women Find Fascinating 06:58: Do This to Get Girls Texting You Back 13:13: The Right and Wrong Way to Use A.I. on the Apps 16:34: The Flirting Flaw that Makes Decent Men Seem Creepy 20:37: The Question to Ask on Every First Date BOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com
Be mysterious. Don’t double-text. Use “tricks” to make her chase you. Yuck! Most dating advice is as outdated as flip phones and Fax machines. The old playbook just doesn’t work. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett unveils his 26 New Dating Rules for 2026. In part 1, he shares how to be kind and confident, why texting “like a girl” is a good thing (seriously!), and reveals the playful dating app opener that women love. Episode Highlights: 02:05: Why Women Want You to Talk to Them IRL (and How to Do It) 07:05: How to Channel Your First Date Nerves to Spark a Connection 09:14: The Dating App Opener You Must Try 20:50: The Dreaded Mistake to Stop Making on Dates 24:51: Talk about This to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say BOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com
You see women you’d love to meet IRL, but you just don’t know what to say. So you freeze up. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method, a simple, rejection-proof framework that makes it easy to meet women in bars, coffee-shops, or the gym. Learn how to start light, flirty conversations without memorized scripts or awkward pickup lines—and finally feel confident talking to women anywhere. Episode Highlights: 02:17: The What to Say Method: 3 Simple Ways to Break the Ice Anywhere 05:52: Option A: The Charming Compliment 07:15: Option B: The Insightful Question 10:39: Option C: The Playful Observation 17:15: Client Win: How Robbie Went from Anxiety to Instant Coffee Dates 20:45: What to Do if You STILL Freeze When You Want to Talk to Women BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO APPLY HIS WHAT-TO-SAY METHOD AND MEET WOMEN IRL:www.DatingTransformation.com
Andrew was the dateless, anxious guy who never approached women. Now, he gets numbers and dates—and after one especially bold effort, two strangers literally applauded him. In this live coaching session with dating coach Connell Barrett, Andrew breaks down the simple, practical strategies that changed everything. Andrew isn’t a natural extrovert. He just did the work. And if he can do this, you can too. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS 02:10: From Anxious to Approaching Women Anywhere 35:55: The Daily Confidence Ritual that Changed Everything 38:25: Exactly What Andrew Said to Her that Sparked an Instant Make-out 43:47: The Exact Moment Andrew’s Fear of Approaching Vanished 46:42: What to Say When A Woman You’re Dating Asks, “Are We Exclusive?” BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com
